Well, good to learn this lesson now...all is fair in love and war. The mating game is a primitive emotion-driven thing. Love is a Battlefield, as Pat Benatar once said Really, it is about the animalistic thing called mating with the strongest or the most desireable...the most juiced up as a woman or a man. While this is all just a proxy war, a dress rehearsal...learn the game well. Learn it well. It is not a game for the rational thinker...it is a game for the animal in all of us. A good film that is probably beyond you at this point in your life, is called "Straw Dogs" with Dustin Hoffman...the classic Hegelian dialectic...juxtaposing the rational man with the animal man.