Originally Posted by
DarkDwarf 
Heh, "dibs". No, most certainly not. I prefer not to treat women as property.
No, its just because I don't want to go through this with a friend. I honestly just hate all the drama. I know it is immature, but all this crap goes on when two people like one person in my school, and I am trying to avoid all of that, but maybe avoiding it is the wrong thing to do?
Well.., to be fair.., you COULD "let him have her".., but also blow up his spot at the same time..
Sure.., you can say that it's not right to do that.., but to that i'll say.., it's not right to throw the pressures of "friendship" in your face.., and knowing that you are not one to ruin a friendship over a girl.., use it as leverage to claim her for himself and lock you out.., that's also "not right"..
Besides.., it's not like you're going to say or do anything "wrong" anyway.., all you're going to say to someone who is in her circle of friends is that.., "I just don't want (friend) thinking i'm talking to his girl.., because he really likes her.., and we're friends.., he knows I would never do that.., and I respect him.., so the last thing I want is for it to look like something that it's not.., and have him think things in his head.., especially when nothing is going on.., not in the mood for needless drama"
Don't worry about it.., girls will talk among themselves.., and before you know it.., your friend not only likes "really really likes her.., practically in love with" her.., (blew up his spot).., and anything he does at this point is doomed to failure (she knows or at least thinks he likes her.., so she always feels like she has the upper hand and he has to work harder).., but you are also seen as unavailable.., unless she makes it clear to your friend that she doesn't have any interest in him.., she'll never be able to get to you.. (would you look at that! now she has motivation to tell your friend that she's not interested in him.., and actually just likes you "someone else" instead.., thereby removing any limitation imposed by your friend.., logically.., since he no longer stands a chance.., and she's made it clear to him.., it makes no sense to uphold any restriction he put in place)
No big deal.., you can keep "talking" to her.., but there's really no harm in talking.., afterall.., it's not your fault if she feels more attracted to you.., it's not your fault if she's more interested in you.., and it's not your fault that she feels less attracted to him after she finds out that "he really really likes her.., practically in love with her.., to the point where he doesn't want other people talking to her.., blah blah".. It's not like you went up to HER and told her.., no.., you "just told her friend" and "didn't think she would tell her" (oops)..
Sorry.., you don't actually need to do any of that if you value your friendship with this guy more than you value this girl.., it's really just a choice of letting him be the hypocrite.., or allowing for both of you to be the hypocrites.., I just thought it would be interesting to offer a "loophole" of sorts to this problem.., and analyze one way around the problem..
Best,
GrkScorp