I've had two children under the age of 5. It can be incredibly difficult, which is why (I am sure) you sound so stressed out.

I think when this blows over, you shoud try to get a neighborhood girl to come in and help you out with the kids (mother's helper) a couple of days a week for a couple of hours. Look for a nice girl around 12 or 13 with younger siblings; they are more comfortable with young kids and won't cost as much as a regular babysitter because you would still be at home. This would give you a bit of time to spend on yourself or catching up with chores that need to be done around the house (cooking, laundry, etc.).

Also, try booking a babysitter once every week or two for you and your husband to go out without the kids.

I don't think it is unreasonable for your husband to want you to handle most of the household chores during the week (depending on the temperment of your children, of course). (On the weekends, you should work together.) However, I think it is wrong that he spends all his free time on the PC or whatever else he does. You need some help with the kids, and he needs to spend time bonding with them. Maybe you can negotiate this.

BTW - your kids are very young. They should not have access to things that are so valuable, and in that sense, it WAS your fault. No access means no loss. That's what you have to do with kids. Apologize to your husband for not being more responsible with whatever it was, and take full responsibility. For the record, I lost my engagement ring when my kids were little, so I know how you feel.


I just want to say you should be REALLY careful with this attitude. You sound extremely resentful of your children, and kids are pretty good at catching on. None of this is their fault, and they deserve to feel wanted and loved, regardless of your husband's level of interaction.

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