Originally Posted by
lilwing 
By the way, I did get mixed signals from her when we were talking about sex and whatnot, because the day before, she had told me that she was trying to date some guy. So we've got competition. Competition that is a jerkoff that does not want anything from her, or really care about her, ... except maybe sex. He's a pig. A greedy one. Come to think of it, the day she came over, she told me about how on the drive back, he started groping her, or something like that. I don't think she would tell other people about that, but she is an open shameless person, so maybe. I am not sure if that is one to dabble with. Then again, I wasn't really interested at the time, and I didn't show very much interest, either. I think I'll try, though. Give her a call and see how that goes.
Truth be told.., there's no such thing as "mixed signals"..
If on one hand she's showing you signs of interest.., and on the other hand.., she's showing you signs of disinterest.., ask yourself which one controls..
Congruence:
Consciously: Disinterest
Unconsciously: Disinterest
(obviously.., not interested)
-OR-
Consciously: Interest
Unconsciously: Interest
(obviously.., interested)
Incongruence: (Mixed signals)
Consciously: Interest --> Ego validation/trying to escape w/o hurting you
Unconsciously: Disinterest --> She's really not interested
-OR-
Consciously: Disinterest --> Because she doesn't want to show you how much she likes you until she sees it from you first
Unconsciously: Interest --> Spillovers indicate that she wants you
I think you fall under the second case.., all her autopilot actions that required very little thought on her part were all showing interest.., then.., the action that opposed that message.., was her "telling" you about (some other guy.., him trying to cup a feel.., etc).., which is conscious.., which is just her trying to get a reaction out of you.., trying to see if you care about her.., that's all it is..
I seriously doubt there really is anyone else.., and if there is.., I seriously doubt the story is exactly as she says it is.., (remember.., she likes you.., she has incentive to lie just to get you to react).., don't get disappointed.., don't start to feel the need to compete over this other guy.., don't do any of that.., (why?).., because even if there really is an other guy.., or even if there isn't.., (he doesn't exist).., that's right.., it's just YOU.., and HER.., nobody else matters in this picture.., so don't MAKE them matter..
You should take this as a good thing.., she wants to get a reaction out of you.., to gauge your interest in her.., which means.., (and tells you).., that she's interested in you..
Best,
GrkScorp