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Old 12-05-08, 08:36 AM
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MY PROBLEM
*****My problem is i'm attached now, I put everything I had into her for a LONG time and I can't just turn that off. I know I can't keep pursuing her now, she knows how i feel and she has every source available to contact me if the urge arises. Seeing her at work is up to me, I can work in a different area and avoid her altogether if I want to. I still want to see her, I don't want to never see her again but I'm very afraid if I keep seeing her everyday, talking with her, staring into her eyes, seeing her smile at me, etc...I'm NEVER gonna lose this urge i have to be with her. I want to see her but I know I can't keep feeling the way I do for her, I can't continue to want something I can never have. For 6 months I haven't even looked at another girl, I haven't wanted to and i've thought about this chick sooooooo much. I can't keep living like that.

I know the best thing to do is probably cut her off completely, just try and get over it unless she calls. I just like being around her and don't want to be done with her, I haven't opened up to anybody like this...reason i spill my guts so much on here is because I have nobody else I feel comfortable enough to do that with in reality and I'm there with her, shes the only exception in my life.

I just don't know what to do.
This is one of the reasons why I don't reveal my intentions and never "obvious". Situations like these require a keen intuition, which guide you where she's at without actually asking any questions or any revelation of interest. It can sometimes be like burning bridges, like shouting curses at people. You know, once it's said it can never be unsaid.

It looks like she was interested, but at some point she lost her interest. Perhaps you revealed too much interest in the beginning and made it too obvious (i.e. boring) or perhaps it was something personal to do with her. Whatever the reason was, there's not much you can do now so it's best to focus your mind elsewhere. Go out with friends, do some work out, watch comedies, play music and most importantly go out and try to meet someone new.
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