Squirrley,

You are saying:

"...Is it because men are afraid? .... How do I turn this one around?
...I feel so down and out that I cant help them and I cant figure it out myself."

....I havent dated anyone in 5 years by choice. And the few dates I did have were blind dates-OMG what a joke."

Yes, I think men are afraid to ask women out.

Though...if you havent dated in 5 years....hmmm you either have too
high standards for men (good of course but keep in mind you may not find the man who meet those standards) or you behave in the way they dont ask you out. Do you let men to ask you out? Are you social enough? Go to parties? Church? Any kind of events? Online dating? Anything will improve your chances to meet Him. That can turn it around. (if you wont date anyone in another 5 years and belive he'll find you... well it definitely wont improve the chances at all).

I know, it is so far from somthing positive you may seek. Blind dates are definitely better than no dates though I think it is good to look realistically
at the world (and at the men). I agree with George Bernard Shaw:
"The fact that a believer is happier than a sceptic is no more to the point than the fact that a drunken man is happier than a sober one."

Be realistic, at least let men to see you and talk to you: I am surprised you choose not to date for 5 years, if you chose not to, how can anyone ask you out??!