Originally Posted by
GrkScorp 
when a guy who is not interested in a relationship but just interested in sex.., meets a woman who is interested in a relationship and happens to have sex in the first couple of dates.., well.., what do you think happens?
I think this is more important to look at..
What happens.., is all a matter of how perceptive you are (you.., as in the woman)
- Not looking for a relationship (or desperate):
A man who is not interested in a relationship with you (or desperate).., could honestly care less about you.., and more about just having sex.., let's call these guys.., (losers)
- Looking for a relationship:
A man who is interested in a relationship with you.., is actually very interested in everything about you.., he cares about details.., he wants to know the whole story.., sex is obviously important.., but it's just one of the many aspects to the relationship he is thinking about having with you in the future.., he wants to see if you are someone he can see himself being happy with in the long-run.., let's call these guys (BFM; bf material)
Normally.., women are very intuitive.., social-emotional geniuses.., they can see these things with a clarity and sharpness that most guys will never even begin to imagine.., but.., this powerful intuition has a knack of shutting off.., the moment they start to really like the guy.., once they start to like the guy.., everything is "excused".., things are all of a sudden "overlooked".., flaws start to look "cute" and only add to the attraction.., a woman's most powerful emotional safeguard is rendered useless..
The difference between the two guys though.., is really simple.. so simple.., that it's going to shock you.., are you ready? "Questions".., yeah.., that's right.., questions.., that's the difference between a loser and BFM.., questions..
A loser just cares about getting into your pants.., or any woman's pants.., they just want to do what they have to.., to "win you over".., and have sex.., that's it.., and because that's it.., they could honestly care less about you.., they're not interested in a relationship with you.., they just want sex.., so what you won't hear from these guys.., is really deep and personal questions.., really thoughtful and curious questions.., questions that explore who you really are.., "why" you are who you are.., you past.., your future.., basically everything about you.., doesn't really matter to a loser.., you might get some flattery.., you might get some favors.., you might even get some free stuff.., in an effort to do what he must.., to win you over.., so he can have sex..
BFM may or may not be initially attracted to you.., but for some reason.., finds you interesting.., to the point.., where he is toying with the idea in his mind.., or a relationship with you.., and so.., his curiosity has an orgasm.., it wants to know.., everything there is to know.., about you.., the person he might have to be in a long-term relationship with.., he wants to know if he will be happy with someone like you in the long-run.., and what you're going to start to hear.., is some very personal questions.., very deep.., really digging into who you are.., why you are who you are.., basically everything about you.., he wants to know.., and if there's anything he finds out that he doesn't like.., he'll feel less attracted to you.., if there's anything he finds out that he does like.., he'll feel more attracted to you.., but rest assured.., that he'll keep digging.., until he's completely satisfied with a (yes or no) answer to his question of.., "is this a girl I can see myself being happy with in the long-run?"..
It boils down to that one simple thing.., "questions".., if he's not asking meaningful questions about you to get to know the real you.., then he's not interested in being in a relationship with the real you.., he's just interested in being in bed with the external you..
So.., next time (or this time).., before you turn that intuition of yours off.., before you hit its snooze button.., make sure you have someone on the lookout up on a little lookout-post or something.., listening to see.., "what questions is this guy asking me?".., "is he trying to win me over.., or is he testing to see if i'm someone he can see himself with in the future?"
Best,
GrkScorp