Personally I don't fool around with anyone. I'm a weird guy though. I can't even hug someone if I don't feel SOMETHING for them. For me emotions are who I am. I'm a very emotional person and for me to even THINK of sharing anything of my physical self those emotions MUST be there. I've never fooled around with any girlfriend I've had because I've never felt love. I broke up with my girlfriend senior year because she made me kiss her and I wasn't attached to her emotionally yet. I stopped talking to a friend of 5 years of mine because she tried to give me head and she was just my friend. So for me marriage really isn't what I'm waiting for, but definately for love. I feel that if I'm able to share myself with fooling around I'll be able to have sex as well, I see no difference. Obviously sex is considered more of a major thing but honestly you're still sharing you're most vulnerable side, the sheer anatomy of it seems rather trivial when you look at the emotional side of what you're doing. I dunno, I hope this applies to you and helps in some way.

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