Originally Posted by
Pears 
Mish, is your solution just to move out and do my own thing regardless of what my parents think? It sounds like the most logical thing to do, but I don't want to defy my parents. They tell me the only thing they want in life is to have me around. They want nothing else. Of course there are times when I get tired of their chatter and the way they handle things, but they are still my parents and I want to support them and keep them happy.
Are you saying that I'm giving myself no options?
I understand wanting to keep your parents happy, but at what expense? Must you give up your own happiness to give them everything they want? I don't think so. There's compromises. I say, save up in secret to buy your own place. Then when you can, let them know you're moving and that they are welcome to visit you whenever they like, and that you will visit them often too. They probably need to 'learn' that there is a life outside their children....parents need lessons sometimes too. They need to find other things to occupy their time, and you will give them that opportunity to explore life more. They might need a little push (or maybe a shove), and they will definitely protest, but this is your LIFE Pears. You have to be strong and and firm about what you want, and also prove you can do it on your own.....not just for them, but for yourself.