Thanks, Dazed.
I think the biggest problem I have had with "fooling around" is that I am honest about the fact that I won't 'go all the way', but when things get hot, the guy tends to get mad and think I am a teaser.
So, is it okay to do everything BUT, as long as your up front about not wanting to go all the way?
Your right, though, it is hard on both parties not to give in.
Sparky, as far as losing the respect of your boyfriend, a couple of my friends felt that was the case when they had sex with their guys. They sort of adopted the feeling that "if you went all the way with me, you'll do it with anyone." which may not neccessarily be the truth.