I'm sorry, but I'm with your family on this (at least as far as him living off of you). He hasn't worked in 10 years (which implies he HAS worked since his accident, and now chooses not to). He is not incapable; he is just not interested. If my daughter chose a man like this, I would be heartbroken.

That being said, I think the real problem here is that you are not acknowledging exactly what you are asking for. If you *genuinely* have no problem supporting a man who refuses to work, takes drugs, and has (apparently) some mental health issues, and you accept this is a permanent condition, then it is your business who you choose to be with.

But please... consider objectively and realistically what kind of father and role model he will make before you get pregnant.