Sad but true.. sad but true. I know exactly what you mean. The only reason that the losers get the girls is because they don't really care so they can do whatever they want and don't sweat over it, that gives them the illusion of confidence and like they're on top of it. Girls like that, the nice guys are usually considerate and won't make the moves to get girls because they don't want to offend them or don't know how they would react, in turn this has the effect that they usually don't get the girls. And then you've got the friends trap because they try to get close to them by being friends and end up getting stuck there. It's a vicious system.