i used to be the real shy quiet type that didnt want to talk at all while messin around b/c i was afraid of sayin something that the other person would think was stupid but now that i have found a guy that i am completely comfortable with i think it extremely sexy to be told what to do and be able to do the same to him. i think its just amazing to be able to have the communication like that with him and not have to worry about what he might think b/c i know i can be 100% open around him. it is amazing and i love it.