It isn't about HOW good you are, it's what you do. (sorta like what panda said) Alot of the time, if a girl KNOWS she doesn't hold any real power over you in the desire aspect, (like you aren't drooling over her or getting an obvious boner around her) she can find that all the more attractive. "Hmm, my tricks aren't working on him...what makes him so special?" Of course, that's not exactly how they all think. But it's like I read from one guy that "There was this one girl at school who wouldn't give me the time of day. And then for a drama class, I was in charge of a play that she was an actor in. She was all over me because it wasn't that I was any different. It was that I went from "Ok, you're a hot girl, maybe we can hook up." to "Ok, you're a hot girl but you're the actor and i'm the director. It's business."

The thing is, he treated her like a normal person. She didn't have any control over how he felt about her and that's attractive to women. That's not to say that when you're with a gf, that you should treat her like a normal person, but you should still live your own life. My gf gets somewhat jealous when I hang out with other friends and more so when they're girls. I know there's no way in hell i'm going to mess with them, and she does too, but she still gets a little jealous. I think it's good sometimes because she knows I can be a commodity and that other people are worth my time, not just her. I have a life that involves other people and I want her to respect that. Just like I am cool with her having girl/guy friends also when i'm not around. We both know that we're important, but our lives don't have to bend to fit every whim. Plus I know when she's a little jealous, that I must not be acting too clingy, which sometimes I can be so it's a good "keep in check" thing.

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