Thanks for the encouragement Metal. I took a long time to craft the letter (there is only one - I had to split it into two parts in order to post it here), and made sure that there was nothing too confrontational in it (except for the real FACT that I did disappoint my family and lose a lot of friends when I left my wife to be with her). I also had a couple of buddies proof it, and they suggested only minor changes.

I hope it has touched her, and makes her think about things. Maybe only in the long term. I've spoken to her a couple of times since, but she has never mentioned the letter. I hope that is not a bad sign...