yeh the about to pee is her "cum" and thats when the womans orgasm. i havn't actualy been intermite with a woman yet sexualy that is but i'v heard alot about it from friends. and they've said it was good. but like someone said above don't put pressure on her. if she finaly desides to let it out before orgasm then y not do it in the bath then that way its easy to clean up.