I am a horrible incurable romantic and I don't think there is anything wrong with a promise ring. It's too soon for engagement but that shows the seriousness of your intent and if it will help her, so be it.

Only you and Betty know the seriousness of your relationship as no one else has been there for everthing that you have been through, and again I fall back to I believe it's about the QUALITY of time spent together not the QUANTITY. So if anyone else is casting doubts in your mind - brush them away.

You are a wonderful man with a great deal to offer and you deserve someone who sees how special you are and appreciates it (not sits back expecting your devotion and attention.) It sounds like you have found that woman, and though distance will not be ideal - it's doable.

Have faith not just in your love for Betty but for the love you have for each other. Hopefully you will not be disappointed.

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