I normally don't date people I work with. However, I recently went on a date with a beautiful, intelligent, and level-headed (I thought) woman that I met at a reception. We went out to dinner and returned to my apartment and talked for about an hour or so. We kissed on my couch for a while and things started to get heavy. She started to perform oral sex on me. After a while, I asked her if I could finish in her mouth. She stopped and looked upset and hurt. I tried to ask her what was wrong and if I had said something inappropriate. She wouldn't discuss it and asked to be driven home, which I did. I tried to kiss her goodnight but I received a turned cheek. I haven't called her yet and am perplexed as to what I should do.

Should I have not asked her about 'finishing' in her mouth? Should I have just done it and not asked her first? Does she think that I treated her like a 'dirty girl'? I would like to call her and clear things up because I'm going to see her in the halls. Have you ever been in a similar situation or could you offer me some advice. This isn't an issue I would ask my female friends about.

Thanks!