Okay, I agree that men and women alike have to be attracted physically, yes. BUT put a mediocre girl and a knock out at the same table. How many men are going to even notice the mediocre girl is there before any conversation even transpires? I have this friend. Tall, slim, blonde, blue eyes, blah, blah, blah. I know not every man is attracted to that, BUT me being who I am, (not too terribly attractive, but fun, intelligent and sorta sweet), could be standing on the table NAKED and still the guys would flock to her. LoL That is a slight exaggeration, of course, but you get the idea. How do you let the guy see exactly what you are made of when he won't take the time to talk to you? It's hard to compete with blonde and beautiful regardless of how intriguing you may be. And, yeah, Squirt, I remember having this convo with Alexi about how girls are the same. They talk to the good looking guys first. But in all honesty, I would engage the "table" in conversation before I made a decision as to who would be most appropriate for me to get to know.