Youre not screwed Jules. You did what you thought was best for your child at that time. Im sure their mom in todays' society would have already figured that one out. Granted it was before marriage, but its not so looked down upon anymore. You are a VERY strong woman to do what you did, and I give you a ton of credit for making probably the hardest decision of your life.

As for tellin him, I probably would when things get serious. Theres no need to tell him right now, its not that you dont trust him or anything, but thats got to be a very personal thing that you just dont share with someone youre casually dating at the time. Give it a little time yet. When you two decide to become a couple, then sit down one night and tell him your story. I have no doubts he will understand and look to you with courage you have, and know that you are a wonderful woman.

Sweetie~not many people take the step you do, and take the cop out. Im so proud of you for doing what you felt was right for your son.

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