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Old 26-08-04, 05:00 AM
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Thanks Zas!
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Originally Posted by zas
i am in nearly the same situation! it sucks seriously that the guy im seeing also is too scared of getting hurt, and wont hardly give me a chance with him, so im currently "waiting" for him to get to the stage where he could handle a relationship. its very hard to get through to someone like that, you just gotta let him see for himself what a great person you are. obviously in your case this guy thinks you are playing games with him, my advice to you would be to let him cool off and think about things between you, dont call him.
if he wants to talk to you, he will call you! try not to act insecure about the current status of the relationship, putting pressure on him etc, i find this just winds my guy up because we have talked about it so many times. you can either wait for him to come to you, or move on...your choice!
also you could play it quite cool, men are normally up for somewhat of a challenge with women, have you been "chasing" him? if so, STOP!! if he likes you enough he will soon come to you.

hope this helps =)

Hey- Thanks for your advice! It was alot of help to see someone elses perspective on my issue. It sucks that your going through somewhat of the same issue, doesnt it just drive you crazy!!! The thing is- I totally know where your coming from and Ive seen over the years that guys DO like the challenge, but its so hard because all I want to do is just tell him how I really feel and stop fronting like its all okay when it kills me. I know there really is nothing I can do to get him to come around, and I have other options- but all I seem to think about is him. He just doesnt get it. Something I forgot to mention before was the guy I told you I would talk to about the situation, his best friend, well truthfully he used to be 'in love' with a few years back and I never saw anything more with us then friends... So one of my friends thinks he might of made me look even worse because of the simple fact that he used to like me so much. Hes told me before how much it kills him to see me talking to his friends, and that statement he made about wanting me to get hurt so I know how it feels. So... once I kind of thought he might be making matters worse- I stopped talking to him about it. The only reason I DID talk to him about it was because he always asked me about how I felt and tried to pry things out of me... so I thought maybe he was just helping and being mature about it- but I kind of think now he made matters worse. We'd always been good friends anyway so it wasnt weird to be talking to him about it.
I dont know... BUT THANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE!! It did help alot. I guess theres not much for me to do anyway other than wait it out.
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