This is all true PandaMan. You're good! You've made me realize my self-esteem is the issue.. it feels so splattered to learn he pulled one over on me. His exact intial words when I asked what he was looking for in a relationship about 2 mos into it "I like you and I'm having fun.. but you know L., who knows what tomorrow brings". That kind of bothered me bcuz to me it sounded like ~hopefully tomorow brings something better than you!~. Then I said "well the reason I'm asking is bcuz I have some other opportunities to date but I really prefer to be monog once I'm being intimate with someone". He quiclky responded "me too".