He reckons there is a reason why he always keeps coming back, i told him the reason was sex, he said it wasn't, i told him to find out the reason and then let me know. I think this was an excellent thign to say to him!!

I've been down this road! One way to clear the air.. is to stop having sex with him. I did this recently and it made the guy think twice. I always invited him to stay the night when we would hang out but didn't one night a few weeks ago. He kept making excuses to extend the evening and I wouldn't give in and ask him to stay. He was shocked! But you know what? He called 2 days later to see me again (something he hasn't done since we started dating again a few months ago - he would only ask to see me once a week usually). Then he called me very soon again.. and expressed that he was missing me even! Heh!

I think it's all about keeping balance and being centered within yourself and not letting the other person walk on you that keeps the flames of a relationship going well. Take back your power!!! If you dont feel comfortable or happy about a situation - DON"T ACCEPT IT!!!! Have respect for yourself!!