hi, yeah, thats what i am doing now, not because i want to take power, but just because i can't let myself be crushed by him again and again. somewhere down the line it has to stop, and this is what i have said to him. the thing was he didn't realise i felt so strongly about him, and this has made him think about having a proper relationship. I think the poor guy is confused at the moment. yesterday he said he needed me to tell him what i wanted, and i told him i didn't want to be used, pushed away and replaced with other girls. i am just afraid that if he does want a relationship 1. he is in the navy and we would only see each other mostly every 14 days, thats not a problem for me, i knew this before and it wasn't a problem and he was pretty impressed because other girls had a big problem with it. and 2. do i have the energy to put in to something that might not go anywhere, and the fact that he might just be saying this to get me into bed just because i said i wouldn't anymore.??

I have given into him so many times, not because i didn't want to though, i did back then, i thought i was strong enough to just forget about him after, but i never was, and i can't put myself through it again and again just so he can have his fun for a few minutes. the thing is i might just know him too well.