I think what you say is nice, and in an ideal world it would be perfect. This, however, is the real world and like it or not these games are a reality. If you like someone you can hardly walk up and declare your undying love! They would obviously run a mile. When you do this it is making you look desperate - it is such a turn off. I personally know girls who are very forward with their feelings and I simply do not find them attractive. It all goes back to the "you want what you cannot" have scenario. It is sad, but I'm afraid in my experience it is true.

Also you have to remember that this game playing process occurs relatively near the first encounter with a potential girlfriend/boyfriend. This stage has absolutely nothing to do with love; it is simply basic attraction, idealism and perhaps even infatuation. When, after time, you have come to actually love someone, these silly games are no longer played.