Hi All,

I need some honest opinions...

I have been dating a man for a month. I like him alot and we get on really well. In the past I have been very hurt - I kind of let this control my future relationships and up until now hadn't been out with someone properly for about 8 months. My last few ‘serious’ relationships have all ended in disaster. My second proper boyfriend cheated on me and lied to me and was always on his mobile phone to other girls which has made me a bit paranoid over mobile phones. I am not however letting this affect my relationship. I find it very hard to trust and believe the good things he says to me. He said to me the other day that ‘he had been looking for someone like me all his life’. I was obviously over the moon at this statement then started to reflect on the past and wondered if he was serious or if it was just a line (I had done the deed a few weeks in (not intentional - we were both drunk and I guess it took away the awkwardness) so I it wasn’t said to get me into bed). We started off just seeing each other and I asked him yesterday ‘if we were still just seeing each other’ he responded by saying ‘do you want to be my girlfriend?’ I replied what do you want and he said he wanted me to be his girlfriend, so now we are official. My deepest worry is that he will change his mind. I’ve been out with a man before (well my first proper boyfriend) who told me he loved me after a week. Things were great for two months then he coldly dumped me and I found it so hard to believe that he could just switch his feelings off and on like that. Growing older I am aware that feelings do change - you can’t help it. I just don’t want it to happen again. I’ve never been in love and so want this one to be the one and the one that I love for the rest of my life.

Do you think he is sincere?? Let me know if you need more information.

Many thanks - Jakki