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jakki2903 · #4 (**permalink**) 10-09-04, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Kelly1

we have had an on off relationship for 2 years BUT we have never officially been a couple. His longest relationship was 7 months, and i drove him into the arms of her, he ended up staying with her that long to teach me a lesson. the thing is, i think he is the one, he is the only one who i feel complete with, and before him i had a 3 year relationship. He hasn't said he wants to get back with her, but he hasn't said he doesn't want to. I have tried to leave him for good so many times, but every time he comes back and each time i think that it might be for good. Everytime he ends up with someone else. He texted me the other night, saying how sorry he was to mess me about, and that he does care for me and doesn't want to loose me. if that is true then i think , why doesn't he want to be with me. he is in the army, and reckons now that he doesn't want a girlfriend where he is from, because he is away from home sometimes for a long time. he wanted to text me tomorrow and say what is happening, at first i thought even if he didn't bother not to worry because he isn't going to give me what i want. but he always comes back, and i am not strong enough to tell him to leave me alone. i suppose i will just have to wait, and keep telling myself i am not a hure and if he wants me then he has to be my bf. if he really wants me then he will come, i guess...

I guess you have the bite the bullet and as they say tell him it's all or nothing. He sounds like he wants you, but then wants to hurt you too which I can't understand unless you do something that makes him feel insecure which is why he goes off with other people - maybe your not making him feel that complete even though you think you are. I would spell it out to him that he has to choose. Either full time with you or nothing and that is the only way you'll know. I always come right out with what I am thinking with blokes and sometimes it does me a favour. I last about a day wondering about them and couldn't take the mental torture of not knowing for days. This bloke I've just started seeing has just asked for space, even though he said 'your the girl I've waited all my life for'. I keep pushing him away though without meaning too doing exactly what I think he'll do and now he has. It's best to be upfront. It's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. If he is the one then he is worth fighting for.