31 years! That's wonderful! Anyway mp4, if you want to train yourself, just find anyone to talk to. Strangers. Anyone. Just talk to them. Especially old people who are sitting by themselves at a park or something. Chances are they want someone to talk to and they have a lot of meaningful things to tell people but no one listens. Go listen to them. Make friends with them. You'd see a whole new side of life, and at the same time you can overcome your fear of approaching strangers. THEN you can go approach the girl of your dreams.
