I don't see how any of the above things mentioned by the man who wrote the article would make you look desperate or inconfident. Seems like they are merely compassionate and gentlemenly things to do. None of what he said cries out "Oh he's unsure of himself!' or 'He only does it cause he's desperate!'

Open a door for a lady one day, never have I seen a woman give me a disgusted look. Always a smile and a thank you.

-Shea