Originally Posted by SeXehBloNde - Flower Power
Women love flowers. You've never met one who doesn't, and you never will. The ten bucks you spend on a bouquet will score you an infinite amount of points. And if you don't have ten bucks, pick some flowers out of a stranger's garden. It's cheaper but just as effective.
- After You
Trust me when I say that there is nothing outdated about stepping aside and letting a woman walk through that door first. Whether you're walking into a ballroom or a grocery store, give her the right of way. Women remember the little things, and this is definitely something she'll file away.
- My Treat
It's not recommended that you foot the bill on every date, but you should pick up the tab the first time. Don't let her pay, even if she offers. You'll be sending the signal that she's worth it, which she hopefully is.
- Armed and Ready
Put your arm around her waist. You'll make her feel sexy and feminine by creating the feeling that you're there to protect her, that she's your girl (at least for the moment) and that everyone might as well know it. Works every time.
- Allow Me
If she's thirsty, get her the glass of water. If she's cold, get her a sweater. Of course you're not at her beck and call, but it's important to cultivate the idea that you have her best interest in mind. Given time, she'll repay every one of your good deeds.
- If a guy did one or more of these things for me, I would for sure fall for him, that is, if I was already interested in him. What do you girls think about this? Guys, would you ever do any of this, or do you already?
Counter-Point: - Buying flowers is definitely desperate. By buying a girl flowers you are sending an immediate signal that you're buying, and she's selling, effectively you're placing control in her hands. Dating is a two-way process, she has to try and seduce you, if she knows (or suspects) that you're hooked, you just ruined her fun and she loses interest. Furthermore, it doesn't really accomplish anything, certainly not on your first (and last?) time out together.
- Something she'll definitely file away? Uhhh... not really. If you want to open the door, open it. If you don't, don't. Its that simple. You have to be at ease, women enjoy confidence. When I open the door for women, its not because its "nice," "gentlemanly," ot a "take charge" kind of thing, its because I want to. When you sit there and do things like "oh I'm supposed to do this... oh I'm supposed to do that" it sends a desperate signal to a girl, it tells her you're trying overly to impress her and she won't interpret that in a good way. The key is to be confident that you don't need to impress her, you are the catch.
- Sending the signal that she's worth it? Here you go, you're worth $24.67. What the **** does that mean? If you go out of your way to buy women stuff, be it dinner, flowers, presents, you are sending a signal that you are trying to "buy her." Also, if you're a college student, you have bills to pay. If you're dating life is active and you go out with a lot of girls, you don't feel like picking up the tab, splitting the tab is not only financially sound, but with confident girls, the right choice. When I go out I'll usually split the date up, first part at a restaurant, second part at a bar, if I pay at the restaurant, she'll offer (90% of the time) to pick up the tab at the bar, and this way she is returning a favor and signalling that she is interested in me. Dating is a two-way game.
- Putting your arm around the girl works, but not necessarily for that reason. It shows you're at ease and that you're not afraid to touch her or be affectionate, and it also shows confidence.
- That would be lovely in an ideal world. Women try to manipulate you. They really do, from the experienced serial daters to the "shy girls" or "nice girls," they will always try to play you. They will usually ask you for favors just to see if you'll do it, know when she is trying to play you and when she really needs your help. You have better stuff to do than sit around and pander to her needs. If you want to help her, know that she needs your help, and are sure that this isn't one of those little mind games/power games (yes, even for really trite things, women will do those), then go ahead and help her. But if not, don't. You're a busy guy, and she's going to have to earn your time.
- Okay, this is based under the assumption that blondy is already interested, when women are already interested in you, have already discovered that you're a catch, this sort of thing ceases to be desperate, but you can still ALWAYS blow it by turning too affectionate.
Also, never take dating advice from women. Seriously...
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