people always get hurt no matter what. Just bite the bullet. Yes, he'll be hurt & you'll hurt too but can you honestly say you aren't hurting at the moment?

Distance yourself from this army guy. Say you don't want to speak to him at the moment and if that ever changes you will get in touch (i.e. no contact). If you aren't speaking he can't mess you around right! Which, you know, and I know is what he's doing. You honestly can't let him do this to you.

I was in such a similar situation until about 2 years ago when he committed to me. I regret it so much now though because it set the whole tone of our relationship - he had the upper hand the whole time. Looking back I wish I had called it quits. So that is my advice to you, especially if you want to give the other guy a chance.

Best of luck, keep us posted.