First of all I commend you for being a virgin at 19, its rare. And you SHOULD be proud of it. Granted after reading your story, you'd rather not be at this point in your life. But the fact remains you have very high standards for yourself, and that is NOT a bad thing. You havent had much in experience in dating therefore, dont really have the emotional sexual feelings of being involved to that sexual extent. If youre correlating youre race to lack of sex, I dont think or Im not sure that really goes hand in hand. But, Im sure with the amount of time you spend thinking of such issues you find it has to some how relate. Its in your mind set that has to be the reason. Sometimes we get to thinking so much we justify things in our minds for it to make sense, and it works, and other times it just doesnt fly.

IMHO~It sounds to me like youre a really nice guy whose got high morals and doesnt view sex casually. Youve already taught yourself one lesson in life, and thats not to get involved with someone whose fresh out of another relationship. Lessons in life are good. We need those, good or bad, it makes us stronger in the long run. Im not sure why exactly youre so frustrated that your friends are sexually active and youre not?? The jealousy card you call, well if you REALLY were wanting to pursue a sexual relationship with someone, that jealousy would be resolved, but than where would you be with yourself? Its a wash. Think about yourself and not others, cause when it comes down to it, youve got yourself you have to answer to and no one else. How are YOU going to feel in the morning? Not them.

Id take a look at yourself and see where youre priorities stand. I think you should start dating around some, find people that show similar interests. Start to feel the dating world, what kind of woman you'd like as a partner, etc. Youre still young, and have plenty of time to explore the world out there! I will say if you go out and have random sex/pay for it or whatever you will regret it, you acknowledge it which is a good thing, so stay away from it. I think the best thing you could do, is just forget about what others are doing, and start having some fun in the dating scene. Date around some.

Seeing Im a female, I'm sorry I dont have the males perspective on the situation in what EXACTLY your are feeling. But I think in the long run youre going to thank yourself for waiting for the right woman.

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