Hello dawz, I'm 24 and I just got out of a 5 year relationship. I was then one who ended it but it is no easier on the other side. Five years is longer than a lot of marriages and to get through this is going to be tough. I feel like my life is over and that I cannot live without this guy. We still live int he same town and I'm sure thats not making it any easier on either of us. Holding on the past is going to be the worst thing you can do. I know, becasue I'm still doing it right now and my life sucks. The only comforting thing to me is that there are times in the day, even if it is like 5-10 minutes, that I feel ok. Those minutes will turn to hours and then to days. Then you will eventually be just fine. I'm sure you have heard it just takes time so many times. But, that is the only thing that is going to makes things alright.