honestly it hurt my first time, but not that bad. I know some girls that it hurt like hell the first few times they did it though. it can depend on alot. they say athletic girls sometimes go through less pain. Especially if you are a gymnast or i've even heard if you ride horses alot. all i know is i have always been very athletic and it didn't hurt that much. put it this way..... what ever u have the pain built up to in ur mind, the real pain is probably half of that. i think people always expect it to be worse than it is. anyways....im sure u have a great bf that respects u and will take things slow for u at first.