Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate all of your input very much - you have made me look at this situation in a different light. Manonfire says that as long as I trust her there is no problem, and I don't really have a reason not to trust her other than my own vivid imagination. I could easily check her email (she gave me her password long ago so I could check the status of an online order that she bought for me), her caller ID, etc etc - I would NEVER do any of that because I think that violates trust. However, imagining her having an affair could theoretically drive me crazy - so perhaps it is myself I need to work on here? Draven says that "once a player always a player" and that has been my biggest fear. The sex and emotional level ARE turned way up and it won't be a problem to maintain them - but she is a woman that "needs" lots of affection and attention. Fortunately, I am the type of man that likes to give lots of both. Kirsty, you slapped me in the face - I needed to hear what you said and I appreciate it as I do the other replys. Looking at my life, I have learned from some of the stupid mistakes I have made - I guess that's what makes us human. I will concentrate on our relationship and move on - her previous relationships have NOTHING to do with me and her now - that was years before we even knew each other.

Thank you all so much - maybe I can put this whole thing behind me now.

David