Thank you!! But I think I need more help. I spent more alone time with him this week. I even stayed over one night...I did make him promise that we would not have sex. He respected that, which did surprise me a little. (Why did he do that? To build credibility?) I just don't know what to think about him or my own actions.

Him-- He can be very nice, respectful, gentle. But overall he is really hard to read. He would never explain his emotions. And I have no idea what he really thinks of me. He has not even said anything related to "I like you." He will give compliments--you are really athletic or your hair looks different and nice today, etc. We once tried to have the relationship talk, but that got cut short. All I know is that he told himself he would not enter a relationship until he had a job. (I think this means he just does not want one with me and this is an excuse. Still, I think I hold on to the fact that over time this may change.) I do force him to initiate things. I have yet to ask him first to do something with me. I think I covered most of the physical things...but I still get a sense that he really likes the physical aspects (who does not) but I think that he can do them with no strings attached.

Me-- I don't even know if I like him. Maybe I just like the challenge of him or the idea of him (he has many "pluses" that I have always thought I would love). Also, sometimes I think that I have a tendency to get into relationships that are emotionally damaging to me. I figure this out, but I stay in them. Why? I have no clue, but I cannot leave. Here, I think I do like him and I do obsess over things related to him. I have tried to be honest with him, but that is not working too well. I have been able to tell him that I cannot sleep with him because 1) that is not me and 2) I would start caring about him, and I cannot start caring about him. I also did tell him once that I did not expect anything from him. But deep down I know that I do.

So, what is going on? What should I do?

THANK YOU!!!