I think to start, be really open to ideas. You can try almost anything once. And sometimes you have to try a couple times.

Clubs--Like others said, this is a huge one. Although you should not change yourself or partake in hobbies you do not like, if the plant club only has 40+ year olds, you need to start something new. Look for your target audience...young ladies normally do book clubs, volunteer clubs, young professional societies, triathalon/running club, etc.

Community Events-- I am sure there are some wine tastings or silent auctions, etc. that you could go to. These are "events" so it would not be hard to be alone--you would have something to do.

The gym--You can meet a lot of women there.

Making your own events--Throw a dinner party or a drinks gathering. Have your friends bring one outside friend. Try to get this to be a routine thing.

The park--Try readings or walking in the same area a lot...you may meet another regular.

Book stores and coffee houses--There are always a lot of single people here. Just get the nerve to talk to those you fancy.

Internet dating--I don't think it is horrible; it is 2004.

Grad schools--Try to find out about local grad school events and parties.

Good luck!!