I'll be blunt, but be warned, it probably isn't what you want to hear. But please remember this is just what I think.

I don't know what love is, because I've never experienced it. But based on what I think love is.. your situation doesn't seem like it to me, at least on his side. I'm sorry, but if I had a girlfriend I loved, I wouldn't want her to change a thing. Usually, when someone wants you to change something about yourself, it means that they're not happy with that aspect of you. And he's asking you to change your personality? To be more caring, then to be more sporty? It just sounds very wrong. I don't know if I'd ever ask my girlfriend to drastically change like that (especially her personality!).

Sounds like he's lying to you about the calls, too. I mean, sure, he might be tired all the time, but if he is, don't you think he could make time for you sometime else when he wasn't tired? There has to be some time he isn't. And if he goes online after... well, I don't think that sounds very right.

I'd hate to say this, but I want to voice my opinion (and I know you want opinions). I think it's time to move on. From what I hear, I think he sort of treats you like dirt. Maybe it isn't blatant, but if he tells you to change, lies to you, and makes excuses to get off the phone with you... well, it just doesn't sound like love in my book.

...Sorry to be so blunt, but I warned you, right?

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