Originally Posted by loveisbitrsweet
well long distant relationships are difficult in the first place, so I'm sure that is one reason why she acts this way sometimes. It sounds like she cares about you a lot and thats why her mood is effected by things like you being too tired to talk to her, and maybe she feels like you dont care as much for her as she does for you, because you can brush things off so easily. Some girls (including myself lol) get very analytical about things like that and want to know that you are as emotionally attached to them as they are to you. I can understand talking on the phone every night about the same things can get repetitious and boring, so just talk to her about that when you see her. Maybe come up with an idea to keep things more exciting, instead of making a phone conversation last hours of akward silences, call and say you love her and miss her and cant wait to see her again, but you have a lot to do so you will talk to her soon. something along those lines..the best thing to do though is communicate, especially in person when you have the chance. maybe even send her some flowers to let her know you are thinking about her when she isnt around.
Thanks for the response loveisbitrsweet,
We have talked about this in person before, and I have sent her flowers
Actually I just brought her a rose the last time I was up there which was 2 weeks ago...normally she is very easy to please and that's one area where I have no complaints. She calls me a lot out of the blue to tell me she loves me and that she was just thinking about me...I dunno if she expects me to do the same.
I do try to please her as much as possible...me coming up to see her almost every weekend is usually good enough. It's like she's happy when I'm around and not happy when I'm not. But I think her stress level in school has a lot to do with it also...she's an engineer and is always swamped with work...so seeing me on the weekends is a huge relief for her. The thing is we usually don't have time to talk during the day because she has classes and/or studying so we always talk at night when one or both of us is tired. I really dunno what to say to her at this point. I still think that she needs to learn how to relax and take breaks from her work and try to do other things to keep herself happy other than depending on me. Maybe it's just me because when I was in college I was never under much stress because I learned to channel it into positive things like working out, no matter how high my workload was. Any other thoughts as to what I could possibly say to make her feel better? I'm at a loss right now.