sometimes we need to get the shit slapped out of us verbally to really GET the point. if you look back, i had a problem that i needed help with and i knew deep down inside me that i needed to be told i was wrong--to know it was just me and i was overreacting. it served me good, and i didn't end up calling the person a stupid mother****er (which one spelled in one word by the way). and i think he's right, you are kinda lookin' at stuff one sidedly.