this is a tough situation because to her, you're still second. she did devote her love to her husband first...remember that. plus she has two children with him already. well...you said he's abusive and she probably did fall out of love with him. i think that you're in a tight situation because she might be looking to you as a rebound. you're a nicer guy than her husband and this is what she has been missing. besides the fact that she has children, that is her first priority and you're still second to them. personally if i were you, i'd just wait it out to see what happens because the decisions all lay in her hands. raverboy

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