the problem does not lie within you the prolem lies within her and yes she is very insecure either that or feeling guilty of something (i doubt that) but none the less. i think that she needs to find some help...sometimes when you are in an abbusive realtionship it shakes you so much that you get lost in allthe bitterness of it all and you go around with a big chip on your shoulder. She needs to stop freking out on you about stupid shit i mean r u suppose to look down at the ground everytime a girl passes by( jeez my ex hubby used to do that to me it sucked) he was very insecure and had bully syyndrome he would talk down at me convince me that i was totally screwed up just to make himself feel good. it was horrible! you cannot go on living this way and you need to let her know that you will not live like this anymore!