You're insecure about your relationship...and for obvious reasons. A few thoughts on this;

a) you are insecure about the relationship, and that will hang over you for your entire time together if you do not get over your insecurities.

b) it sounds like you have good reason to be insecure, if that is the case should you listen to these reasons?

c) how attached are you willing to get with these insecurities in your mind?


Personally distance yourself, a bit, and see how things play out, as you are quite possibly a rebound and that's no fun being in that position especially if you really like the person. You,ll end up being resentful more then anything else.

Tell her that you're feeling insecure and exactly why, and that you aren't going to be possesive of her, that she is in control of all of her desicions, but I say level with her in terms of your feelings, that you think you guys should "slowing down" the relationship, untill these feelings pass. And if they don't i imagine you will have to reevaluate the situation.

Also, although I don't advocate ultimatumes, it is also good, that your partner knows that if they are behaving in a certain manner that you won't stay with them if they continue with that behaviour.

Just my thoughts on the matter....