Thanks for your reply Zekk, much appreciated...

I'm gonna try and do that...but like I said I don't want to spook her or deceive her in anyway.

I know if she finds the sort of guy she wants or fits in with her criteria I probably would initially be jealous. But I know because of the way I feel about her that I'd want her to be happy and find the sort of relationship she wants even if it means I'm not in the frame.

So I'm going to ask her out as a pal (got some tickets for something coming through) this week and then see afterwards where the conversation leads...I don't want to push anything or to obviously set out to her what I want to talk about...Really I need to just catch up to start with..

My concern is that I have in the past perhaps I shot myself in the foot with regards to talking religion as I admit I do have issues with the conduct of organised religions as a whole and the effect they can have on people and society...

I'd like her to see more of the real person that maybe isn't overly apparent in the workplace where I can put up a front and act differently to outside..

She's having a party v.soon..and I'll be going which means I'll learn a lot more about the way she is with all guys in a informal social situation...it could make things very clear to me.

I guess I'd just like a chance with her...and it might be a case for paitence and getting to know each other better...I know I'm prone to pushing to quickly to get results..but I don't want to burn my bridges completely...

The fact is she's made it clear what she wants...I wish I'd reacted better at the time rather than sort of accepting to her that I wasn't that person...but guys have pride and if you get a turn down your not going to go ahead and make it instantly worse for yourself by digging a deeper hole...

To be honest whatever happens the upshot may be that I have to quickly move on..

I hope not because I can see us becoming the sort of friends that she ideally wants..if sadly not lovers..

More soon...