Well, you seem like you know exactly whats going on. You know that youre not doing anything wrong, and I dont think that its right for you to have to give up utterly harmless hobbies and passtimes for her. You pegged it with the alcoholic analogy. She has problems she needs to realize, and you shouldnt keep taking the blame for it.

If it were me, I would probably just waffle and feel like shit, and never do anything about it. But since it isnt me, I can say that you should just give her time to deal with her issues on her own, and right now she is not ready for a relationship of any kind (this is of course all my own opinion, and I probably dont know everything about how you feel for her and what you have had together)