I'm sorry for all the pain you have suffered. You have loved her for so long. You have been hurt, happy, hurt, happy, and hurt. You have tried to be with someone else, but your heart and soul wasn't in it even if your mind was. Must be very hard on you.

All I can say is if and when the time comes she does get divorced, you have to listen to your heart. If she is your soulmate, someone you've wanted all your life and desired then go for it! It is sad that someone will be hurt. But dig deep and be honest with yourself. Could you see yourself with your current girlfriend once this other woman is free? Please don't be with someone for the sake of not hurting them, yes it will hurt her, but better sooner than further down the road.

Best of luck to you and I do hope it works out!!