I dunno whether it's purely the 'nice guy' thing but perhaps the sort of vibes you give off...

I probably fit into the category...I seem to be attracted to girls who really like me but they don't want to take it further for whatever reason...(See my religious thread)...

The problem arises when they have already discounted you (as far as you can tell) but want to tell you things about themselves or things that have happened in the past or problems they have now...This is so hard when you feel an emotional attachment..you want to be there for them and help them out, but because you will probably never be close to them in the way you want you end up beating yourself up.

The thing is with me is that it both girls I'm attracted to and one's I'm very much not do exactly the same..which is very frustrating.

I've had stalker and hanger-on problems in the past...where I've tried to be friendly but then they have taken it too far..I wanna help people out but I can't be a crutch for them...

I just seem to attract the type and looks of girl that I'm not interested in and I just can't but my finger on exactly why...I'm not bad looking, I'm friendly, these days a pretty open person, though I do have some unresolved issues of my own (but who hasn't?)..So perhaps it is the nice guy thing but I do believe I must give out the wrong vibe or signal as well.