The fact that she leaves things over at your place, and more than just once or twice says to me she is doing it on purpose, as I think you noticed. i.e. she needs excuses to come see you. I think she has walls up but doesn't want to let them down because in the past she has been hurt when she does. I understand your questioning weather or not she is just teasing you but from my experience (and my girlfriend is giving input on this too) girls usualy don't tease in the way you are describing. In fact my girlfriend said she didn't understand why you thought she was teasing you. Teasing almost always includes some sort of sexual component if it's meant to be malicious or if it is coming from a known tease, I hope that makes sense. I think you are taking her flirting, advances, little hints, or whatever you want to call it, as teasing. Which in a way flirting is actually teasing but not the kind of teasing that you think it is. It's more teasing to let someone know they think you are attractive, or they are interested or just like you. Unless you have left anything out about the way she is acting, I think she is probably interested now, even if she wasn't before. Who know's why she wasn't before, she may not even know. I would say it is safe to show some interest if you still are. The other posibility is, and this is rare, mean, and selfish, but doesn't happen a whole lot but does. She could be using you to make someone else jealous, or want you around as just a safety. Safety meaning someone to pass the time until someone better comes along. Now it's true you will never get out of her if you are a safety or not directly, but there are some clues you can look for. Does she often talk to strange men on the internet, or at bars, even when you are around? Is she dispassionate when you are being intimate? Does she lean on you when she needs you and when her crisis is over does she seem to strangely be less available when she is done leaning on you? I know these things are mostly things after you are together, but it's hard to tell up front. I think that is one of the things dating is for.
Ok, the late at night thing could mean she want's to be f*ck buddies possibly... Maybe the saying she would call you and then doesn't is because yes she wan'ts you to call her, or she just want's to see if she has any power over you. I agree with what you are doing, I wouldn't call her every time she says she will and doesn't. Definately not, but if you are interested do call her and see what her reaction is. If she seems distant all the time (more than just once or twice) then I would say there are alterior (sp?) motives to her interest in you. I think you could find out more if you play into it just a little, not avoid it like it seems you are doing. Play into it with the thinking you are trying to find out more information, and then pay attention, close attention, to what happens. You should be able to get a pretty good gut feeling about what is going on once you explore a little more. If I was unclear about anything, please let me know, I would be happy to clarify (my girlfriend too we are so in love
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