Hi there,

Thanks for posting. You really should have "closed" her--that is, you should have kissed her, after steering the conversation appropriately. In theory you have probably blown it, but you might still have a chance. If something like that happens again, you *must* close, or your chances seriously suffer. A real pity, given that you would almost certainly have scored, assuming correct timing.

Remember the first three letters of the alphabet: ABC. Always Be Closing.

I hope it works out in the end--good luck!

Ladies' fan.

P.S. I once went on a date with a girl. After dinner, she asked me up for coffee. Went up. She took her shoes off and lay down on the bed. I wasn't sure whether I should go for it or not--that was before I knew how to deal with women. We talked and talked, when I really should have sat beside her and kissed her.

Anyway, of course that killed it, because I must have come across as spineless--which, with hindsight, I was. When the time is right--which it most definitely was, for you--CLOSE! In my case, my behaviour was so cowardly and inept that I really don't blame her for being permanently turned off.

Soon after that she started bedding an older guy: married, not very interested in her, unavailable, and who really knew when to close. Ditched her after a while, of course, and she's still pining over him. That's another story...