Look, I fully understand your doubts and concerns, for the simple reason that I have had similar experiences.

Honestly, the best thing you can do is to CLOSE--that is, go for it (when the time is right). If she fancies you, that's it, it's the start of a relationship!

If she turns you down, she would most certainly NOT have said yes if you had waited a bit more, and at least you can move on.

The bottom line is that closing at the earliest viable opportunity is a win-win choice: you have the greatest chance of being accepted, and if she rejects you, it saves you lots of cash, time and heartache.

Another benefit of this rapid turnover is that you simply "scan" more girls in a given amount of time (say, a year), which maximises your chances of finding a really great girlfriend.

The worst thing one can do, in my opinion, is to allow one's interest in a lady to:

a) hurt the chances of being accepted, and:

b) waste time on this one lady, when you could be "scanning" lots of others who are just as good if not better.

It is terribly fortunate, therefore, that there is no trade-off between time spent on courtship and chances of success. The quicker things move, the greater your chances, and the faster you move on if she's not interested. For once, something works in our favour!

Go for it!

Good luck,

Ladies' fan.